True Reconciliation means Working Together | Steve Beckow

By Steve Beckow, September 6, 2023

(Golden Age of Gaia)

Adhere to Agreed-Upon Rules and Boundaries

These will vary from relationship to relationship. But no physical violence or shouting should be one of them.

True Reconciliation

As Nelson Mandella says, “reconciliation means working together to correct the legacy of past injustices.”

To exit the cycle peacefully and productively takes mutual commitment and work of the kind Nelson probably had in mind.

I emphasize “working together.”

With work and cooperation, I believe the cycle of conflict, which is the experience of countless couples with its “legacy of past injustices,” can be ended.

If we won’t do the work necessary to emerge from our own domestic conflict, how will we emerge from our global conflict?

Wishlist

Gosh, I just felt overwhelmed at the thought of rebirthing the Growth Movement by reviewing some of their major insights and conclusions.

No, that has to wait till after the Reval and I’ll hire a staff of researchers to do it.

But just as a wish list, in what we’ve been discussing around relationship conflict, I’d like to see us:

(A) Tell the truth, harmlessly but accurately, and drop the games, acts, rackets, etc.

(B) Stay away from right/wrong, good/bad.

(C) Share how we feel, how we’re impacted, and what we want.

(D) Take personal responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions, as far as that applies.

(E) Be willing to listen to feedback, try it on, test it out, and see if it fits. If it fits, own it and

(F) Adhere to agreed-upon groundrules and boundaries.

Tomorrow we conclude by looking at the process of leaving the cycle of conflict when you’re single.