Relationships | Jessica Woods

(Golden Age of Gaia)

https://jessicawoods.com/blog

I use to try to hold onto relationships until I learned that not all relationships are meant to last. I had to put the “loss” of these relationships into a greater perspective in order to move through the grief from them. I have certainly felt as if I have had to mourn relationships like a death has occurred.

And maybe in some form it was a death. When I really look at these relationships from a higher vantage point I see where I was being tested, or the role I played to test them. I’ve come to realize that, as in life, we are a witness and a participant in our relationships just the same.

They are a tool used for us to see where we have given our power away, where we need to use our voice, where we are meant to take accountability. And the list goes on.

There are so many avenues relationships provide for us to learn. I’m coming to realize that everything in this life is temporary. Including relationships. There is no guarantee that they will last for your entire lifetime.

Perhaps they are meant for brief moments of seeing all yourself. What you will or will not allow in your life, how you will or will not stand up for yourself, are you or are you not in your power. And vice versa.

We are that character in other peoples lives as well. I won’t say that I haven’t been a shitty human and hurt people because I have. I had to learn how that made me feel through my own guilt and shame of not being considerate of other people and their feelings. The same has occurred to me.

But those are the moments where we get to start to implement being in our own integrity and honoring this life experience by being about what we say and do. Treating people the way you want to be treated, because you are treating yourself with love and respect. That’s key.

You can’t expect someone to give you what you are not giving yourself. Because they are the mirror for you to see all of yourself more fully. That’s how mutual respect is formed. It starts within you and the amount of tender care that you practice giving yourself.

As I look back through a lot of my relationships I can see where I wasn’t making my behaviors a priority by looking at them honestly. I was completely oblivious to my own shenanigans. I was always in the realm of playing the blame game, never looking at myself, everything was everyone else’s fault, and I had no remorse or took any accountability.

It’s wild to think that is how I use to carry myself, but I own it, and I’m thankful for all the lessons I’ve learned. And I have changed how I carry myself, and still have a lot to learn.

I think relationships come and go just as they should. This way the Universe can spice things up a bit. By allowing you to see different aspects of yourself that have come out to play, and intrigue or inspire you to see yourself in them.

I can say that compassion used to be a word that was in my vocabulary but I have been working very hard at opening my heart and seeing the beauty in all situations through a greater perspective.

So it has become easier to be in the ebb & flow of whatever arises, relationships gained or lost, and I have given the Universe permission to give me that which is meant for greater growth and innerstanding.