Paul (right) in 3D
By Steve Beckow, June 8, 2022
(Golden Age of Gaia)
I’ve been watching myself around the passing of my brother, Paul, and I’ve noticed the significance of a conceptual break in one’s response to a death in the family.
I haven’t had a conceptual break with Paul: I haven’t had the thought that Paul has ceased to exist and therefore our contact has been broken.
He’s not “dead,” for me: I haven’t crossed that boundary. If anything he exists more fully than he did while embodied.
If I said “Paul is dead” and accepted that, I’d probably be in an entirely-different emotional space with things than I am.
I’d be feeling depressed, abandoned, lonely, etc.
I have to add that I didn’t see Paul every day. He was about six hours away by bus and ferry. My daily well-being and happiness did not turn on his company.
What I’m saying here does not apply to people who miss his daily presence, his hugs, his advice, and so on. That’s a different matter.
I simply don’t see Paul as gone and I’m noticing that that sets up an entirely-different experience for me than if I did.
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It’s a demonstration of how one fact can bring a different response depending on the context in which we hold it. I used to hold that people died and that was that. I didn’t know what “that” was, but, whatever it was, for me it was final. Dead-final.
Now I don’t. And I’m seeing how much freer, more loving, calmer, and in the other more-amenable states I’m able to be when living from this context rather than from my earlier one.
Changing one’s mind on an idea (from no-survival of physical death to survival) can actually have a radical impact on one’s total frame of mind, feeling, and being.
In the past I’d have said that realization is what has an impact. But this is simply the changing of a very-influential idea – the idea of death as the end. (1)
In the meantime I talk to Paul often. And I know that, once we’re in the Fifth, Paul and I can revisit, unless he’s gone back to his own higher-dimensional venue. Ascended, he could now be visiting all the dimensions.
Lucky guy.
Footnotes
(1) If one holds that there are three levels of knowledge – intellectual, experiential, and realizational – then simply changing an idea would normally be thought of as not energetic enough to induce a real change. in thought and behavior But here it is and does.