How to Shut Down a Critic in Real Time | Ivo of Vega via Sharon Stewart

November 23, 2021

How to Shut Down a Critic (in Real Time)

Me: I was shopping around for someone to come and clean my dishwasher. So I was phoning around. What I'd seen cleaning out a dishwasher meant was pulling everything on the bottom level apart, almost dismantling the machine. Saw that on a youtube video.

What it actually means is pulling out the filter underneath the washer arm and the piece it sits on and then cleaning food gunk off of them. Then running the machine on hot to clear out any gunk in the pipe.

While I was calling around, I got one lady on the phone who started to tell me what I should have been doing all along. “You need to keep cleaning out the filter because 5 years of build-up is going to plug the machine!” she began.....

I could tell she wasn't finished yet, so I cut her off and said, “Well, too late! Do you do these types of repairs?” You know the next part of what she's about to say focuses on judgment: how negligent, how stupid, how whatever you are for not doing the right thing, like she has been, of course. She may describe how she has kept her machine running for 10 years because she has diligently kept it clean, which is the right thing to do. She may begin to compare just how dumb you are to how smart she is and this is the kind of thing you should never make time for because frankly, it's all bullshit anyway. Their bullshit. So you cut them off and redirect them with a new question. Re-assert the reason you picked up the phone to call her anyway, because she's trying to take the conversation off course to suit her toxic need for superiority and her need to stroke her ego at your expense.

Arguably, the non-toxic response would have been either asking for clarification if my explanation wasn't clear, or just saying a firm, “No, We don't do these repairs.”

You have to take people who are going to monologue you on what you should have or should be doing, and cut them off! Re-direct them with a question they can answer. If the conversation sounds like it's going to be a lecture on how stupid you are or how smart they are, or both, cut them off and re-assert your control. Remember these people need something to tell their friends next time they get together at Billy Bob's Burgers and Beer, so just make sure you don't give her one of these prizes for her ego to treasure. Don't give them the satisfaction.

Some people are a bit more subtle, but there are others who have called me simply to intimidate, like the chiropractor I tried when I was in my 20's. He'd noticed I hadn't re-booked so he called me late one Friday night, after hours, to give me shit for not employing his services anymore. I kid you not. I was in tears. Too bad that wasn't me now. He would not have gotten away with it. To make matters worse, I called my useless mother to talk about it and just got blamed even moreso for being a loser. Right about then was about the last time I went to her for any help. That's the other thing: Many of us from alcoholic or addicted families want parents we can go to for help, but it's not there. I think that's why they invented sponsors. And if your sponsor is toxic, if they're using you as a whipping boy, you need to find another sponsor. Everyone deserves respect. No matter what.

Be very careful of energy thieves in your transactions with them, because this is what I'm talking about here. Our entire world is a place where people increase their life force by stealing yours, so don't let them. People are energetically connected and if you're connected to people who are sapping your energy, you will be carrying them through life as well as yourself, and you'll end up with adrenal burn-out like I have now.

A lot of us were trained to be “nice” and often being nice is about someone whose boundaries are so pushed back they'll take any kind of abuse so that others can steal their energy. Don't be that nice. Be reasonable. Be assertive. Don't make time for power trips and ego games. Life's too short and there's enough to deal with without having to subject yourself to vampires like this. Keep your energy for yourself.

There is such a thing as being “too nice.”

Ivo: Many of you were trained to accept negativity as legitimate circumstances in your lives. This is part of the Illusion you are all living in – there is no such thing as negativity. There is low vibration, which is only conditional love.

And yes, your world is about energetic theft. It is being stolen from you and you all steal it from each other in order to replace what was taken from you.

Those who hold high levels of energy or high levels of consciousness, are attacked by those of lower levels of consciousness because they are stealing your energy. This is why ridicule, comparisons such as the one you are describing, malignment, prejudice, and many other types of egotistical divisive behaviors are carried out – to replenish one's energy supply to or to keep one alive.

Your entire world is based on parasitism, from the biome in your gut to insects that bite you, to the energy that is vampired by attachments, archons and the djinn.

Everything is about insufficient energy in your world. That is because it is being tapped off to support the entire system created by the negative A.I. running it. All low energy areas are obvious in that they have few resources and suffering humans and ecologies. Those are areas that are extremely vampired.

This is what is causing the service to self mentality. When one's energy is too low, they are in what you call survival mode, and it creates a third dimensional service-to-self mentality. When you practise good energetic maintenance, when you do your shadow work to heal your aura of its leaks, then you will be able to practise a service to others mentality. You will become more in charge of your own personal energy supply and you will decide how it is you wish to dispense it. So you will become more of a giver, not a taker. The power of a human is in giving, not in needing.

Me: It all makes perfect sense, Ivo. The behavior of the person is dictated by their energetic level or the frequency they vibrate at. Always. When you rise in frequency, your ability to give increases and your need to take or to steal from others diminishes.

Ivo: Correct. It is all aligned.

Me: Thank you, Ivo.

Ivo: My love, you understand me as the giver that I AM. I do this because I am whole, nobody is stealing my energy, I am in utter command of all of it. I spend every day in service without need for a day off, however an annual vacation to see the grandchildren in Vega, because it is my pleasure to do so.

Me: I know. So many think we're frauds but they don't understand how we relate to each other and they're not us, so how would they know. They can only understand our messages from their own frequency and some are too low to get it.

Oh yeah, that was the second part to this story. I put up an add on Kijiji that said, “Need an intrepid soul to go where no one has gone before.” And I described the dishwasher problem. A man messaged me back and I called him. He described how to do it. He kept me on the phone way too long, kept repeating himself and I kept saying “Bye” and he kept talking. He bothered to mention what life was like when his wife was alive, and so I got it. He is looking for a new love.

He called me the next day again, and I ignored the call. I sent him back an update and mentioned I'm not available but thanks for your help.

People, start doing things JUST FOR THE SAKE OF BEING NICE. If you're looking to hook up with someone, BEING NICE will net you your next love a lot faster than doing things like helping other people with the ulterior motive of gaining contact to them. Let BEING NICE be your motive, nothing else. When you're nice you will hopefully attract a lot of nice people to you and your next love will probably be among them.

When you act nice but you have an ulterior motive, then you're not really nice, you're actually practising deception. I've come across this many times. Someone like me is looking for nice people, not people who try to act nice but have a selfish motive. I have left people like that sitting in restaurants to finish their tuna sandwiches by themselves while I stomped out in a huff, after they revealed what they were really after from me.

Being nice is ITS OWN REWARD.

These days people make friends because their friends can DO SOMETHING FOR THEM. They have skills that the person doesn't have. No, that's not the reason you make friends. You make friends because you like somebody. So simple but so lost on so many these days!

When you do things out of love, for the right reasons, you will pretty much automatically detect those who aren't. That makes life a lot easier, believe me.

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