Self Respect and Minding your own Boundaries | The Angels via Ann Albers

Message from the Angels 06/24/2023

My dear friends, we love you so very much,

Your world is going through a lot of turbulence right now and will be for a while, but it is for a good reason. You are all finding your hearts! You are finding your voice. You are starting to understand that you have a unique place and perspective in this world and a right to it. No longer are you willing to pretend things are ok with you if they're not. No longer are you willing to put your desires on the back burner. You are no longer trying to agree with everyone, please everyone, or be all things to everyone.

Dear ones, the spirit within you is awakening!

As with many awakenings, this one is causing some upset and a lot of turbulence in human hearts. As you surrender to who you are, what you want to do, and how you see life, you naturally desire to find others of like mind. There is also a very human desire to want others to agree, to "get you," to "honor your boundaries," and to "respect" you. These gifts of the soul are fantastic when given freely, but trying to make others get you, honor your boundaries, or respect you is exhausting.

What is important is that you "get you," that you "honor your boundaries," and that you "respect" yourself.

You "get yourself" by acknowledging that you are an embodiment of the creator's love in human form. You are perfect as you are, even as you expand into more. You have a loving heart, a kind soul, and a desire to love and be loved that lies within and beneath all your thoughts, words, and deeds. Even when angry, you cry for the love you don't think you can have.

What matters most is not what others think of you or how they treat you, but rather how you feel about yourself and how you treat yourself.

Do you "get" you? Do you get the powerful creator you are? Do you get that you seek to see love, be love, and experience love within all things you say and do? Dear ones, if you "get" your innocence as a human being and you get your magnificent creative nature, then the words, ideas, or opinions of others will not matter to you. No one can sway you from who you know yourself to be. When you get you, others can no longer trigger you into defensiveness or anger.

Strive to remind yourself daily. "In all things, I seek love. In all things, I want to be loving. I have an innocent heart. I'm always doing my best, and that is good enough!

Rather than waiting for others to treat you kindly, you can choose to define and honor your own boundaries. Take time to examine your own heart. What are your limits? How will you act, and what will you do if someone does not honor them? For example, you all want people to speak to you kindly. Not everyone will. You can't make everyone keep this boundary, but you can decide how you will react. Perhaps after the first unkindness, you can say, "Ow, that hurt," and walk away. After the second, you can say, "You know what? I care about your feelings, but I promised myself I would only engage in kind discussions. You are upset. Let's speak later." If the person persists in their unkindness, you may choose to walk away or withdraw your energy from the conversation.

Only you can decide how to honor your boundaries. You don't even have to explain them to others, justify them, or get anyone to comply. You simply have to have a "game plan" to honor your bright spirit when others can't or don't.

Likewise, insisting that others respect you or your beliefs is exhausting. Some people don't respect themselves enough to understand how to demonstrate respect to others. Of course, you want others to see you as worthy of love and acknowledgment. Nonetheless, as you already know, some will and some won't. If you can make peace with this, you can avoid feeling anguish when you encounter individuals who can't or won't respect your beautifuliful soul.

Decide that you respect yourself. Respect your own thoughts so much that you have no need to argue or defend them. Respect your bodies so much that you treat them well and kindly. Respect your spirit so much that you decide to think the thoughts that elevate you no matter who or what is around you. Stop demanding respect of others and simple respect yourselves.

What you want, more deeply than anything, is to experience yourself the way the Divine within you does—precious, perfect, unique, expanding, growing, perfect...

By granting yourselves the things that most human beings crave, you give yourself permission to be who you truly are. You grant yourself the right to "be" you. You stop requiring the behavior of others to conform to your standards and set yourselves free.

Interestingly enough, the more you get yourself, the more you honor your boundaries, and the more you respect yourself, the more you will easily attract more and more others who will do the same.

God Bless You! We love you so very much.
-- The Angels